Delayed Ejaculation-Psychological Aspects
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition (DSM-IV-TR) defines delayed ejaculation(DE) as “a persistent delay in or absence of, orgasm in a male following a normal sexual excitement phase during sexual activity that the clinician, taking into account the person’s age , judges to be adequate in focus, intensity and direction.
IELT (Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency time) is the duration that begins after penile entry into the vagina and ends at intravaginal ejaculation or exhaustion.
“The patient is able to achieve erection. The patient is able to penetrate. Does not ejaculate for about 20-30 minutes in spite of good erections. Patient unable to collect a semen sample for semen analysis”.
For simple reasoning purposes, delayed ejaculation could be primary (lifelong) or secondary (acquired). In Primary DE, there is a strong Psychological/Behavioural aspect to delayed ejaculation. It is suggested by Masters and Johnson that orthodoxy of religious beliefs can contribute to delayed ejaculation. Some of these men harbor strong guilt or other negative expressions like “spilling of seed should be done only for conception” and any intercourse for pleasure may result in a poorer probability of orgasm.
The second presentation may be that of “autosexual orientation” a term coined by Apfelbaum. This refers to men choosing masturbation over intercourse. The masturbation in these men is usually idiosynchratic (peculiar to them), i.e. a technique that is not easily duplicated by their partners hand, mouth or vagina.
This is a common presentation at MetroMale Clinic where I see men who say that lying in a prone position on the bed and simulating intercourse is how they masturbate.These are the men who have difficulty in achieving orgasm with their partners and also collecting semen samples for analysis. Treatment would involve psychosexual therapy to maximize partnered sexual stimulation.