Premature ejaculation or lack of Ejaculatory control is the second most common reason men come to see me in my clinic. “It is over before it starts doctor”, they say. A feeling of anguish and the guilt of not being able to satisfy their partners lingers. Though a scientific definition of Premature Ejaculation may be ejaculating within one minute, partners of men who ejaculate slightly after one minute are not necessarily happy. So, what’s the story? What are they thinking?
The first thought that comes into the mind of the woman is that she should not stimulate him enough. If she does this, then he is bound to ejaculate quickly and this definitely is an issue. As she does not stimulate, the man might have Erectile Dysfunction which only complicates the matter. The other important thing that happens is that women with partners who have PE don’t focus or get involved in the act. This is because she is afraid that the entire sexual act may be over before she actually starts deriving enjoyment from the act. This is a learnt behavior. She had tried this a few times before and every single time this had ended in disappointment. A few women who are endowed with great orgasmic ability may try to reach orgasm before the man unsuccessfully ejaculate thereby increasing their frustration. Even if they do in few cases, the effort is like homework which ceases to be associated with pleasure after some time. The worst case scenario is that the woman may fail to get turned on.
Often times, men think that they need to have sex for 30-40minute and fantasize a world where that might be a possibility. However, in my experience I see that men who engage in these marathons are less than satisfied. The good news is that Premature Ejaculation is a treatable condition. The sooner you seek help, more gratifying is the experience.